Post by @stefano
For some (many?) years, I’ve embraced a philosophy: defuse.
When a situation is going nowhere and the tone starts heating up, the best thing to do is to defuse. Going on would only make things worse, with the risk of saying something I might regret later.
Is it right? Not always. Is it wise? Most of the time, yes.
Will I regret it? No, I don’t think so.
Sometimes it’s better to stop arguing, take note, and act accordingly.
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I very much agree about this. When it is heated, usually both parties can't think straight and after that it might get to bad stuff for both of them.
So many times, after I looked up meself during the heat time, I realized how much wrong I was. And what disasters could happen if we had continued...
It is indeed a wise thing to do.